There’s an evolutionary secret that can help you understand how to attract men and make them desire you instantly. Honestly stopped reading when you mentioned Asian girls and continued on for a paragraph or two. Guys say they don’t like being compared, but go on an compare girls to other girls. It’s like someone saying ‘oh, girls like big penises. Check out any black guy’s package and you could see why no girl in their right mind would deny one. Wait though, there are a lot of guys who are well endowed.not just black guys. – but mainly black guys’.
See what i’m saying? I’m half thai myself, and have met many MANY terribly not cute Asian girls – and white, black, hispanic, every girl of the ‘racial rainbow’. I do agree with the fact that the more feminine you are, the more masculine men you will attract. It’s biological (mainly due to estrogen and testosterone levels).However, this article is SO wrong on so many levels.Being feminine is about being who you really are as a woman. This is a mixture of softness, strenght, maturity, gentleness, sex appeal and beauty (inner and outer).
The stereotypes this article states are just contributing to bringing down women. You shouldn’t change who you are no matter whateven if it’s for attracting guys.And no, “typical” feminists want to promote women strength and capacities. They want EQUALITY. As in, men=women. Does that mean they think very cute/submissive/beautiful/feminine women are weak? Since ALL kinds of women AND men are equal no matter what.
This is a load of BS! I am an Asian woman and I hate the fact that we are seen as feminine, delicate, and cute! It bothers the shit out of me because it is a stereotype and I hate being labeled with that tag on me! Well, truth is. I am not one of those Asian woman who are like that because I was raised strongly and to disrespect men who does not show any respect for me. Besides, you do have to be yourself when you want to get a good guy.
You can’t be fake! Once they found out that the girl was a fake the whole time just to get their attention, they will get mad. Though I agree with Serena over the article. I will say we as Americans are failing to appreciate our gender differences. Just read an article which may or may not be true that American men have 40% average less testosterone than 50 years ago.Completely, personally I feel perfectly fine being feminine/cute and still maintaining my strengths/including career accomplishments and abilities to work hard in a variety of different fields (that may be labeled more or less masculine or feminine)BTW true feminists should be willing to fight for men’s equality as well, and hopefully not criticize them for not fighting for yours. We beat men up emotionally more in this culture than ever before and then tell them they aren’t /can’t be man enough for us. I’m a guy and I just don’t get a few girls girls who’ve commented here!
Every time a guy says something truthful (in this case, the author), and it makes you feel insecure, you just jump down his throat and try to force him to say he’s wrong! 🙂I completely agree with this article, 100 percent! I saw this on a page that was linked in a forum where a girl was bitching and moaning about how screwed up men are. But hey, don’t you get it?
This is what men want. And this is what men find irresistible! Men want to be like men, and there’s nothing wrong with women displaying their femininity.The article is so long, and talks about so many things and tips, but all you women who feel threatened by feminine girls just jump on one point the author claims, that Asian girls behave in a more feminine way.
Do you even see how you’re all behaving? Like insecure brats!! Just read the whole article and stop picking the one thing that makes you feel insecure, for crying out loud!! Instead, try to understand a guy’s mind better.And just a word of advice, you bitching or moaning here won’t change a way a guy thinks. And you commenters can’t change a guy’s view just by claiming guys should like unfeminine girls instead of feminine girl!.
I am an ASIAN woman f, love it not because of anything, love that comes from habit, from the eye to the brain and the mind to the heart, that true love is pure in mind and heart, it is a gift, because it raised an expectation of love and sacrifice, and if do not be afraid to sacrifice love romance, and believe me mate is actually a reflection jiwa.per confident love yourself, do not be hung with the hard work of others, success with hard work and effort, not the passenger name.we women are no different from any of us, whether we should force anyone to love us?no at all!!!!!! THE UNSWER LOVE AND BEAUTY IS RELATIVE PERCEPTION. I agree with Django. All the women who attacked the OP with all your hate and bile are just well reluctant to accept the truth. The truth is, a truly feminine woman makes you hateful dykes feel threatened.
It makes you “women” feel insecure because deep down even you know no man will ever fall for you and will obviously choose the sweeter more feminine girl.Well, cry me a river. It’s not going to change the FACT. Men have always liked feminine women. All you feminazis needn’t take over the thread with your incorrect nonsense.Agree 100% with the OP!. This is sexist. It’s generalising feminists aswell as women and men in general. People have preferences, people should using biology as an excuse to pidgeon hole.
Women should be and wear whatever they want to. To all the men saying women should dress a certain way to suit you I say that maybe you need to broaden your perception on what you consider attractive, everyone should. It is the media that tells you what is attractive, preferences are okay but it is not okay to throw around insults because people do not fit your narrow standards of beauty.Feminists are not anti traditionally feminine, if the woman is happy with the way she dresses, whether it’s jeans or a dress. Also stereotypes are harmful even if they are complimentary, you are not doing any favours in those regards. Also the word feminazi is stupid, Hitler was anti feminist and we don’t kill several people in gas chambers. Stop comparing us to nazis, it’s bullshit and an unoriginal insult that isn’t at all witty.
I looked up advice to help me strengthen my long term relationship. I am open to changing to not only please my man, but myself, too.I am white.
Before dating me, my man dated many Asian women. He is still friends with a few of them. I always felt a little frustrated by this. If he liked blondes, I could dye my hair.
I cannot change my ethnic background!This gives me hope. If it is indeed the cuteness and sweetness he loves, not the appearance as I once thought, then I can please him!Thank you!. Great article! I totally agree.
The cuteness of a woman can tame a man’s heart and lust to find other women out there, but of course beeing sexy too. To those women that disagree with this article, stop beeing so dominant. Men are physically and etc. Stronger than us women, they dont need a tougher spouse to live with, let them be the men and u be the woman a.k.a queen/princess. Are how is that?
Politeness, funny, shyness, cuteness, sexyness. If u want to be the stronger spouse in the relationship, they will surely not stay long with u since it is in their nature that they are the ones who should feel masculine and strong and have responsibilities to protect and love his gf/wife. They want to feel that they are wanted, so let them lead and u as woman relax and enjoy. (Not talking bout the cooking and cleanin though lol). It’s quite funny how some of you can’t accept the truth.
To be honest, this article is true in so many levels. I’m naturally one of those “cute, sweet and feminine” girls, I love wearing pastel colors, skirts, and dresses, I am told that I am well-mannered, and I am somewhat shy. When I was younger, however, I thought that being an “aggressive tomboy” like one of my friends was the way to go. So then, I decided to wear dark clothes, act rude and get violent.
You see, my friend had a bunch guys going after her. I got jealous so I decided to be like her.
I realized that these boys were just using her, and the guys who actually liked her were the “not-so cute” and nerdy guys. I didn’t want that, so I reverted back to my old self. When I was acting like my friend, I couldn’t understand why I couldn’t get a sweet boyfriend. Until I recently read this article, it gave me hope and made me realize that I can still be that sweet and feminine girl that I was before, and get a guy who will truly care about me. Now I have a rather handsome yet sweet guy who likes me for the real me, and eveyone says we make a rather cute couple.
I learned a very valuable lesson here. Thank you 🙂. Actually, what they mean by “don’t be yourself” is that you have to strive for what you want to be in life. If you have a role model, try to adopt the characteristics that make them a good person.I actually AM one of those cute and feminine girls. I ‘ve always been. Here’s some personal experiences for y’all: I once dated a guy with not so much testosterone (he was a skinny guy who was a complete NERD).
It sucked, we had nothing to connect to, and he eventually dumped me for a more “dominant” girl. Now, I have a guy who is LOADED with testosterone (and he’s attractive), who likes me. Whenever I get cold, he offers his jacket. When I’m scared or upset, he does everything in his power to make me happy. People say he’s fallen quite hard for me, and I don’t blame him!A really good friend of mine is the more ‘agressive and dominant’ type, and I noticed that attractive guys were going after her. I was a bit envious at first, but then I found out they were just using her.
There is this ONE guy who doesn’t have much testosterone, but he truly loves and cares about her.Elijah is right. In the end, don’t defy biology, just let nature take its course. I should have known the reactions from the feminists would be outrage. The author is right on with this article.
And your ridiculous complaints of stereotypical bs in this article is typical of you offended narcissists. Did you ever wonder how a stereotype came into being? It came into being as a consequence of observation of majorities. In other words, it became a stereotype because it’s a common attribute of a group, readily visible to others. Stereotypes are not evil, in spite of your quixotic politically correct mis-thinking. They teach us to discriminate in kindergarten, when they tell us to put the square peg in the square hole. They teach us this because it is a valuable mental faculty to cultivate.
You ultra-feminists just can’t stand it, and insist on trying to put the square peg in the round hole. Generally agree with this article—until the part about men with low testosterone liking woman who are in charge.It’s actually just a matter of preference. It doesn’t mean women who are in charge or slightly bitchy and demanding aren’t feminine. It’s just a different type of feminine, and it’s the kind that can drive many men wild. Personally, I’ve been with very feminine, sweet demure women and also the dominating type.
Both are sexy. Every guy likes to be put in his place every once in a while and sometimes an extremely sweet girl can come off vacuous. Just my two cents. I agree with this article mostly a few things I don’t agree with but everyone has there own opinion.
I haven’t been single since I was 14 and let me tell you 14 and 15 I didn’t have anyone to be that serious with me because I acted to tomboyish I thought that was what guys liked plus I was still pretty imature. Before I go any further, I just wanted to say yes I sometimes think to myself I wish I would of gave single a chance more often in my life instead of being so young and boy crazy but I wouldn’t take it back any of it because it did make me learn what type of man I wanted after dating boys, it made me realize what type of man I wanted in the long run. I turned 16 I started to act more cute, flirty and girly and I started to get the guys I wanted instantly.
Now I am 23 and I have the man of my dreams he is HOT! Caring sweet understanding and still at the same time very manly I love it I never thought this kind of man existed I thought men like him were too snooty and had there eyes closed so why would they notice a women like me. I was always a social butterfly. 6 months ago I found this man and I couldn’t believe how he just fell completly head over heels for me. I am alot more girly now adays where I am flirty but with him smiling and laughing all the time and I show my girly side, but I also love to go fishing and out doorsy and don’t mind doing guy things with him and he really loves that about him.
He is very thoughtful on top of being a hottie I have always had men be rude to me in my past maybe because I have a little insecurity or just need someone to talk to so I’d call a best friend to talk or my mom so I could talk and wouldn’t make them mad. Now I have a partner who is my best friend and the person I need to talk with and it’s fantastic. If I feel a little insecure he’s loving to me he understands I am just afraid at times the relationships going to disapear or change and it’s because it still feels like a dream because he is my dream come true so it’s like I just feel as if anyone pinches me to wake me up from this dream I am going to rip there heads off he he jk lol! But seriously I couldn’t believe I am the first women he has ever moved in with because he’s never been this serious with anyone where he wanted a life with them and that makes me feel very lucky since he has been with a various of women and could of chose any of them but its like once he found me he knew exactly what he wanted a family a life time with me.
So like I said I believe this article because I have lived it. I am a 32-yr-old female, and I have to admit that the majority of this article is dead on. I am a mixed bag, honestly. I am a bit tomboyish (I LOVE watching football!), yet if the right man roots deep enough I am actually extremely submissive. I am short (5 ft tall), curvy, graceful, and demure and yet I am also strong of mind and very intelligent (I am in my final semester of undergraduate biochemistry studies). I was raised by an uber-dominant female so I remember I emulated her for a while, but then realized that ultra-feminism did not suit me at all.
I have been serious with a natural alpha male for a few years now and we have a bruiser of a son. He brings out the feminine and submissive side of me, honestly.
I was drawn to his confidence, and even though I was employed as a line cook in a restaurant at the time, he saw through the “tough” facade immediately. It’s like a light clicked on. I may not wear frills or dresses, but my shyness and soft-spoken nature give me away as a feminine creature.
I may not wear dresses, but I still dress to attract him even after these years, and I LOVE being close to him and feeling his large presence whenever he gives me a hug or kiss and I feel so safe in his arms. Femininity can be expressed in different ways. Sure guys like the cute girl, but once that sensual mysterious woman walks in, she becomes invisible.Also, I find ironic that being demure and coy are now sought after qualities by men, when I have been criticized so much growing up for being soft-spoken and shy. ( I’ve become much more assertive over the years).
Maybe being demure isn’t so attractive on western women?And to be honest, Asian girls are pretty but personality wise they are just like everybody else. In fact, some of them are much more aggressive and bossy than women from other cultures.Whatever it is, remember ladies, you can be powerful AND feminine!. As a man (curiously reading these articles at 3:40am Saturday, for reasons unexplainable), I’d agree with most of the things said here.Something I’ve learned, which I think is true for both men and women, is that there are two sides of attraction. The obvious, conventional attraction is that one has towards the masculinity/feminity of the opposite sex. However, the full spectrum of attraction & sexual/romantic fulfillment relates to ones own “self attraction” to their masculine/feminine sexual energies and how their partner brings those out.
I’ve found that when it comes to turning a girl on, often it is equally important for me to make her feel beautiful, sexy, and seductive as it is for me to put effort into being the source of her attraction. Partly through compliments, but moreso through body queues that let her feed off my passion & attraction for her beauty & femininity, which stimulates her attraction towards her own sexuality. Both women & men are almost equally attracted to their own masculine/feminine sexual energies as they are to the opposite sexes.
The naive may say, “A man being attracted to masculinity? That’s gay!”, but there’s a large difference between a man wanting to form a relationship & have sex with other men than being attracted to the way a woman makes him feel about his own masculinity & sexuality. Hence, why many enjoy having sex in a mirror or watching themselves on a porno vs having eyes on your partner alone.There’s more to attraction than simply the objective traits of that person. It may start like that, but the complete dynamics of sexual attraction lie in a duality of both the conventional physical attraction to that person, as well as the ways in which (from a guys perspective) a girl brings out the feelings of masculinity to a man, and the passion & attraction towards him which bring about his attraction towards his own male sexual energy and prowess.I feel the same goes for women to men, and is a secret rarely discussed on these websites that make a man go crazy for a girl. If I am not feeling attractive/masculine, it lowers my attraction for others & makes dating, love, and sex less fulfilling.
The girls who I have been most attracted to know how to project their passion towards a man’s masculinity, virility, and sexiness– and in turn, men feed off that and increases his overall attraction to her. I agree with this article he makes good points and I can work on some things but overall I do a good job of this naturally and i find the stereotypes mentioned to be pretty much all true who cares what he points out if it’s pretty much true, don’t hate on the author for speaking the truth! I agree with all the men’s comments on here too, and what I like most is that a MAN wrote this.that validates this article women on here who were angry: why are u so mad at what men want? One guy commented why try to change science so true!And another thing that bother me about “feminists or overly strong women ” Is why so extreme in their opinions. I have opinions but I love hearing other opinions why r u so mad if u obviously must have googled how to be more attractive to men haha 🙂Let’s get one thing straight.I LOVE being feminine but it doesn’t mean just Bc im a traditional woman that I don’t have my own things going on with career too,.ladies, there CAN be some of both without u being so threatened by men why do you have to be SO extreme??! I can’t stand an overbearing woman.To another mans comment above I agree NO man wants to date some woman who is always arguing why are u even thinking about stereotype this and that blah blah blah” oh plz shut UUUPPP!!!! I giggled a little when he said Asian women lol but who cares!
Don’t get so offended they are very cute and sweet is that bad to point it out?If I wrote about u it wouldn’t be pretty and you’re just mad about that! So go be more Asian like hehe 😉 jk lol 😉. Be sure to attract a decent guy though.
It pains me to see a decent girl ending up with a worthless man. Women can do so much better than settle down with a worthless man. Women are independent and they can do their own thing. We don’t need a worthless man in our lives. We need a man that will complement us. We need a man that would go the extra mile just to make ends meet. We want a partner for life, not a liability.
Let’s take a stand for all the independent women in the world. They deserve better men. I’m a guy but wow Just wow. Like, the way you describe it makes it seem to me like you basically want a dizzy slave. Why don’t you just date a child instead? Holy fuck dude.
And no, men are not ‘naturally aggresive and dominant’, we’re just socialized to be that way so we get to control women. It’s people like you that’s wrong with the world. You use sexism and conservative gender roles to your advance so you can shame women for being human beings and not dolls. You tell girls that they need to be submissive cute little dolls who exist to fulfill your fantasies. If you can’t handle a real woman, with her loudness, dominance, and opinions, you’re better off single. Which I hope you do because no girl deserves to be manipulated and controlled into submission by you and guys like you. It’s natural instincts.
Men evolved to want to protect/provide because women are physically weaker, and so would have a hard time protecting themselves/kids. Also, Japanese women have jobs, and they still act feminine. And a man would have had to be aggressive and dominant to hunt, and to protect children/women. (who are physically weaker) If a women is all masculine, it makes her less attractive, because that’s not what a man instinctively wants in a woman. Why would a man be attracted to a woman that shows traits of someone with high testosterone? And how would that trigger his protective instincts in any way whatsoever?.